Growing up in a time in which women working outside the home was the norm, “homemaking” was not a term that I often heard. In fact, it seemed almost archaic to me. It carried the connotation of 50’s housewives who wore pearls while they vacuumed.
Women have fought so hard to be seen as a valuable asset in the workforce that now I feel as though responsibilities at home – those not accompanied by paychecks or prestige- are seen as trifling. While my own mother was an excellent homemaker (while also juggling a career, I might add!), in general, society taught me that being a homemaker was not a noble aspiration.
It became a role that I, at best, regarded too lightly, and, more truthfully, scorned. It conjured up images of Cinderella, on her hands and knees scrubbing the floors while the rest of her family carried on jolly and carefree. I considered it menial and laborious. (And let’s be honest, at times it can be!)
If you find housework to be terribly monotonous, read my post about How to Survive the Monotony.
The biggest problem, though, was that I simply failed to recognize the significance of the role. To me, homemaking simply equaled cleaning, and lots of it.
But I’m learning that there is a lot more to homemaking than cleaning. Homemaking is just that – making a home.
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But what does that mean?
Other words for “making” include:
- dreaming up
- bringing about
- putting together
From these other words, we get a clearer picture of the personal responsibility, the direct cause and effect, and the productivity of “making.” What we are creating is a direct result of our own hands – we are producing something where there was nothing, and we are directly responsible for the resulting product.
And what is the final product? A home – the place our family regroups at day’s end. Our gathering place, our home base, our hub. A shelter from the outside world. It is the source of the largest influence on our children’s success, and the place that will either refuel or drain our families’ strength to face life.
What kind of home do you want? What visions do you have for your home? Do you want it to be a place of tension, strife, and chaos, or do you want it to be a place of refuge, peace, love, and comfort? What I’m learning about homemaking is that the choice is mine. As the maker of the home, I am the visionary for the home, the framer of its construction, the preparer of its atmosphere, and the securer of its character.
I am the one who sets the tone for the home, the one who molds its values, and the one who puts together the pieces that result in the quality my family desires. My hands, my words, and my actions build the home – whether that is a place of solace, comfort, and strength or one of discord, disorder, and disaster.
When I start appreciating all it entails, suddenly “homemaker” doesn’t sound like a trifling job at all, but one that is vital to the success and development of my family.
If this was an encouragement to you as you settle into your role as “homemaker,” please consider sharing with others!
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