There’s a lot I don’t know about motherhood. But these 10 things I do know for sure help me through those times of uncertainty and self-doubt.
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There’s much I don’t know about motherhood. So much.
I don’t have all the answers. I don’t know all the right way to do things.
There are days I feel like I’m floundering and I don’t even know what in the world I’m doing.
In those moments, those moments of doubt and uncertainty, I fall back on what I do know.
I remind myself of these 10 things I know for sure about motherhood.
10 Things I Know For Sure About Motherhood
God has called me to this role
While some women know from the time they’re little girls that they want to be a mom, I was not one of those girls. At one time, I wasn’t even sure I wanted kids, truthfully.
But God radically transformed my heart. He dropped a vision into my spirit, and I never looked back.
I know every mother’s calling looks different, but His pursuit of my obedience and softening of my heart towards motherhood is proof to me of mine. There is not a doubt in my mind that God called me to motherhood.
God equips me for it
Therefore… if I know He has called me, I know He is equipping me. God doesn’t lead us somewhere only to leave us high and dry to fend for ourselves. When I feel inadequate and unsuited for motherhood, I need to remember that the One who called me to the job will give me what I need to abound in it.
And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work. 2 Corinthians 9:8
Motherhood is hard
I may not know everything about parenting, but I do know that raising great kids who love Jesus and love others doesn’t just happen by accident. It takes vision, it takes intentionality, and it takes a whole lot of work. It’s not hard because I’m bad at it. It’s hard because it’s hard. (As most good things in life are.)
There are no perfect mothers
I’m a perfectionist, and that definitely carries over into motherhood. I want to do things the “right” way. I compare myself to other moms who look like they have it all together. And I get in a major funk when I don’t measure up.
But there are no perfect mothers. Anywhere. Ever. And knowing that reminds me to give myself grace when I mess up.
I don’t have to be a perfect mother
What’s more, I don’t have to be a perfect mother! While of course I should seek excellence in this responsibility God has given me, my imperfections as a mother teach my children to seek our perfect Father. Because He alone can fulfill their every need.
God can do what I cannot
There’s a lot I don’t know, but I can rest on the fact that God knows everything. And the more I rely on Him for answers, the more He supplies. The more I rely on Him to act, the more He moves. The more I rely on Him to provide, the more He gives.
God can do what I cannot, and that reassures me that even in the midst of my imperfect parenting, as long as I’m a praying mom, I am an effective mom.
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I love my kids
It might sound crazy, but in my lowest moments of feeling like a complete failure as a mom, sometimes I need to remind myself that I love my kids. I may not do all the right things or say the right words, but I love my kids. And that alone reassures me I’m not doing it all wrong.
My kids love me
And some days I need a reminder that they love me back! Despite my faults, despite my failures, despite harsh words and hard days, my kids love me with a deep and unconditional love. And years down the road, that’s what they’ll remember.
I’m a better parent than I was a year ago
I may not have all the answers, and I may not be the mom I want to be yet, but rather than beat myself up about where I’m not, I need to remember that I’m not where I used to be, either. I’m a better mom than I was a year ago (let alone almost six years ago… oof!).
And next year, I’ll be even better yet.
What I’m doing is making a difference
There are (so many) days when I can’t see the fruits of my labor. I get weary, I get exhausted, I wonder if it will ever pay off. And then I see them. The little signs of a harvest, reassurances that the seeds I have planted are growing. And I know that what I’m doing is making a difference.
There’s still a lot I don’t know about parenting and motherhood. I still have a lot of years left in my journey and a lot of lessons to learn.
But these are things I know for sure, and they’re what I lean on in the uncertainty.
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