I think (I hope) that all of us would say we love our kids and we love being a mom. But even so, there are days when that love comes easily … and there are other days when, well, it’s a bit more of a challenge. And certain seasons, personalities, or circumstances can make it even harder to love.
But in my (albeit limited) experience, there are three major keys to loving motherhood, even — or rather, especially — when it’s tough. These are the things that I have learned make or break the level of joy in my mothering. And when I notice a significant deterioration in my mood, my temperament, and my love, these are the keys to which I return. And they never fail to set me back on course.
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3 KEYS TO LOVING MOTHERHOOD
Know the power of your thoughts
Here’s the real and honest truth: joy doesn’t slip away unless I let it. I don’t lose control; I relinquish it. Someone or something doesn’t steal my joy; I give it. In the hardest times of crying, tantrums, and pure exhaustive work of motherhood, I have learned like no other time in my life how capable I am of choosing to remain calm. I have an incredible power to change my own attitude.
And my thoughts play a major role in harnessing that power. Thinking and dwelling on negative thoughts will quickly lead me to joyless places. Choosing to focus on positive thoughts, however, will quickly restore the joy to my motherhood.
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Never underestimate the power of quality time
Quality time is huge! It builds our relationships, deposits into our kids’ love banks, helps us all get along better, and reminds us how much we really do love our kids. They’re not an interruption to be resented; they are a blessing to be treasured.
Don’t be a martyr mom
Being a martyr mom helps no one. Motherhood requires sacrifice, for sure, but sometimes what’s best for my family is for me to take care of myself. I can’t run on an empty tank, and the only place I end up is Grumpville. And no one wants to go there. Spending a little time and energy on myself, taking a few things off my plate, and simplifying my life a bit is sometimes just the thing I need to restore a little joy in my life.
Remembering these three keys makes the biggest impact on how much I enjoy motherhood. When I’m feeling particularly overwhelmed, irritated, or frustrated in my mothering, I almost always find that I’m out of whack in one of these three areas.
But when I choose to focus on the bright side of motherhood, prioritize fun quality time with my kids, and stop trying to do too much, it’s amazing how quickly the joy returns to my mothering. And when Momma’s happy, everyone’s happy. *wink*
These three keys were based on snippets from my ebook, Love the Ones You’re With: A 30-Day Joyful Motherhood Challenge. If you would like to read more about these and other ways to fall back in love with motherhood, you would love this book! It has 30 bite-sized, practical challenges that will not only restore some joy to your life but will build stronger connections with your kids, as well.
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